Recently, we attended a Football and Cheese Ball party at a friend’s house. There were 5 kids there, all age 3 or younger. They tore the place up – in a good way – with their unbridled enthusiasm. They laughed and shouted and got into everything. The dads watched football, the moms talked.
It was a delightful fall afternoon and when we got home my
cheeks hurt from all the smiling. Hubby reported he had a great conversation
with the dads, and my daughter was sound asleep, exhausted from her play date.
Throughout it all, I couldn’t help but notice the ease among
the group. The conversation flowed and the laughter was easy. And Down syndrome
only came up briefly, despite the fact that all our kids sport that extra
chromosome.
I am thankful to have this beautiful group of women to count
as friends. I am thankful no one says anything about the milestones my daughter
hasn’t met. I am thankful that they recognize and praise the things in her that
I am so proud of – that she will eat anything, that she is curious, that she
gives kisses. They see Rowenna.
Now for the soul-baring part of all this. It took until I
sat down to write this entry to realize that - for the first time ever - I am thankful for Down syndrome.
I never would have met this group of women if my daughter
hadn’t come with an extra chromosome. I never would have taken the time to put
Rowenna in a playgroup, and I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t have had such an
intense need for the support of other moms. Certainly I would have made other
momma friends, but this is different than I expected.
These women have become sisters and I can no longer imagine
life without their kindness, laughter, and support. We rally around each other
when our littles need medical attention and we drag each other out for lunch or
dinner when someone is having a bad day.
But best of all - the thing for which I am most grateful –
there’s no explaining between us. When someone’s child needs a sensory break,
it just happens, no questions asked, no odd silences. When a mom breaks out the
thickener so her child can have something to drink, there’s no explanation.
When someone’s child signs something, we all know enough signs to be able to
respond.
We get it. We get what it means to live this life,
challenges and joys and all. We don’t explain, we don’t apologize, we don’t
worry.
So today I am so very thankful to be surrounded by these
beautiful mommas, and I am thankful for this lesson learned: to see that there
are things to be grateful for when it comes to Down syndrome.
I am thankful I am not alone.
Definitely a beautiful post. Melissa says so much without going on and on. I love that about her.
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